What should we do when we encounter the shortcomings of another person?

Jewish Mysticism teaches that if we respond by focusing on the negativity, then we are meant to treat the encounter like a mirror.  The flaw we experience also exists within ourselves.  If, however, we respond with compassion by immediately seeking to help the person, then we need not focus upon ourselves.

As educators and parents, when we find ourselves dwelling on the negative behavior of a child or adult, we are actually looking into a mirror.  When we fix that flaw within ourselves, only then do we become able to respond with love and efficacy when we encounter the negativity again.

This approach lies at the heart of emotionally responsive practice.